Cardi B May Want To Get Rid of Her Security Team

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OPINION- There is a brief video clip (see at the end of this post) that went viral of Cardi B being groped by a douchebag fan while she was being escorted by her security team. More than likely the groper felt that because of Cardi B’s past occupation as a stripper, he is entitled to a quick feel. Of course, on social media that is the excuse that some are using to justified why the man committed sexual assault. They are also saying, Cardi B had on an outfit that screamed touch my rear end. It’s worst when Black women are showing up with their font capes in hand, displaying their “pick me” attributes.

Not only was rape culture in 3D during that video clip, but it was also an extreme level of toxic masculinity by Cardi’s own staff, which was her security personnel. Cardi’s security decided to hold her back after she was groped, instead of grabbing the perpetrator and ensuring his face was shattered in multiple places. The holding back of Cardi B during that time showed the devaluation of the person who they were supposed to protect. Why is she paying these guys, when they can’t even do their jobs correctly?

Many women with an emphasis on Black women have often said that we are the least protected, and the most disrespected and this is true. Cardi B’s security didn’t defend her, therefore should be dismissed. The security team Cardi B had in place, were just a waste of DNA and didn’t earn their paycheck that day and more than likely may do the same thing, which is nothing if that happens again (let’s hope not).

I can’t imagine Julius (Beyonce’s bodyguard) allowing Bey to be grope without repercussions, nor grope at all. I’m sure if one would try it, the assailant may be sipping through a straw for an extended stay at the local hospital. Cardi B’s security looked amateurish in that clip and displayed the same toxic energy that Black women have to deal with in our personal lives when faced with the various tiers of rape culture and toxic masculinity by those who should be protecting us. They can’t even protect us when we aren’t celebrities, and prominent Black women can’t even get protection when they pay for it.

After what took place, Cardi B needs to fire that entire security staff who was there and did nothing. Often, those who are supposed to be so called bodyguards are hired based on brawn and not much else. Sometimes they are hired based on their reputation in the hood as an enforcer and don’t have the intellect to create a firm security plan together, where Cardi B wouldn’t be subjected to what she had to experience.

An adequate bodyguard must have an arsenal of credentials, and that includes a past clientele list that should be part of their references they submit to show that they know what they are doing, before being hired. One can’t afford to hire anything without vetting the personnel properly to ensure that the VIP is confident that the security detail knows what to do in any situation. It’s time for Cardi B to cut ties with these useless bodyguards, before next time an assailant may do more than just palm her behind.

-Ms Scripter

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Black Women Aren’t Safe Rejecting Black Men Advances…

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Man Shoots At DoorNEW YORK-A narrative slowly becoming viral is about a few Black women who were out at the Bee Hive Lounge in Brooklyn has made its way on social media. To obtained a grasp of the theme, it is related to a lot of incidents concerning Black women, who reject a Black man’s advances and are subsequently assaulted and even killed for simply saying they aren’t interested. Before I get to the story, recently before this incident there was another incident where a Black woman rejected a Black man in Philadelphia on July 1, 2016, which resulted in violence. It was caught on tape, but in this case, luckily no one got hurt:

The incident began 2:30 p.m. Thursday inside the Rite Aid at 1334 Windrim Ave., police said. A woman told police she was approached by the suspect who attempted to start a conversation with her.

When woman told the suspect that she wasn’t interested, police said, the man followed her around the store as she shopped. He then followed the victim out of the store when she left.

She entered the Safe Haven shelter, located a few blocks south of the store, where cameras recorded the suspect drawing a handgun from his right pocket and firing three times into the doors.

Some men appear to have trouble with rejection. I don’t think they realize that not everyone wants their entitled self-serving ass and that one needs to stop acting like little boys when their feelings get hurt, by rejection.

Now, here is what allegedly happened recently at the Bee Hive Lounge in Brooklyn, in the words of the victim with some editing:

Last night (July 1, 2016), my home girls and I decided to go this bar on Atlantic Avenue. We honestly did not want to go here in the first place but it was in the neighborhood. So as we are sitting down smoking hookah and talking. These rachet a** dudes kept coming over to us trying to talk to us. We politely told the men “We are not interested” they kept on harassing us until one of my home girls was like “stop touching me” home boy got upset and sucka punched her right in the eye. After that the people he came with started swinging on us and in the middle of it all I got punched in the nose by one of the other guys!!!!!! Please do not go to this ghetto spot unless you looking to get punched in the face. Oh and the owner was useless. He was useless because after I called the cops. He closed his gates down and was more concerned about his business than making sure us ladies were okay. This tells me that he probably condone men punching women in the face. I cannot fathom enough how hurt I am for both my friends and myself. We were just trying to have a good time and we got into it with some ghetto people just because we were not trying to talk to them. Some of these dudes now a days are cowards and rather hit their sisters before they hit another man. The guy who punched my friend in the face knew exactly what we was doing and the same thing goes for his friend that punched me. Our black men got to do better because any of us could of been their sister, mother or aunt. Ladies protect yourself when you are out and about because this could happen to you. All because you do not want to talk to a man. Please share this and spread the word. This place needs to get shut down.

So, the Bee Hive Lounge in no way shape or form is safe for Black women. Clearly, the owner is incompetent when it comes down to safety. No one should patrognize a business establishment like that, where women are beaten up for saying no to advances by men. Every night that I pass by that lounge in the safe arms of a vehicle, I see cops sometimes parked in the vicinity. Clearly, this lounge has a problem, where they can’t control the behavior of their customers. Maybe a lawsuit will set the wheels in motion to force the owner to focus on safey. Men like this clearly believes that violence, is the answer because their crusty ass can’t accept rejection and the manager who does nothing is the co-signer. This type of behavior has become an epidemic, where I suggest any Black women who lives in an open carry state and can obtain a hand gun should get their gun permits to protect themselves from the likes of these individuals.

Before I get complaints, that not all Black men are behaving like this (no one said this is appointed to all Black men), white men are just suspectible with the form of entitlement. Take Jaguars linebacker for instance who threw a violent tantrum because he couldn’t get a woman’s phone number:

According to a police report, Jacksonville Jaguars linebacker Dan Skuta was flirting with a woman at a bar before allegedly shoving her face and throwing her into a glass window because she refused to give him her number.

With that being said, I’m focused on my interest, which is Black women. Who is teaching these little boys on how to treat women? Behavior like this is learned in the home, and it’s starting to get so bad it’s an everyday occurrence. Why would any woman with sense talk to a man, who has a violent outburst, when they can’t get their way? Apparently, men that fit that profile have participated in domestic violence in the past and if one accepts his advances, may become the next victim.

Men need to learn to control their emotions if a woman doesn’t want to be bothered with entertaining one’s attempt at trying to “holla” at them; just leave us alone. It’s becoming so bad; it is downright dangerous for a Black woman to be out in about, without the protection of other men, to keep the savages at bay. We shouldn’t have to live in fear, when going out in public because little boys don’t understand how to react in a grown up manner to the words “I’m not interested”.

-Ms Scripter

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Nicki Minaj & Her Assistance in Destroying Positive Black Women Imagery

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nicki-vma-stageOPINION – The MTV Video Music Awards has changed dramatically over the years, and it’s not for the good. It’s produced to me as if the artists are wrestling stars with plots. I couldn’t watch all of it, the show put me to sleep, and it’s typical how I’ve been feeling as of late, when it comes to award shows in general.

I saw parts of the VWM’s last night, nevertheless. I stopped watching and was out like a light when Kanye West went on with his extended speech. Now one knows what I had to go through at one of his concerts when he went on a rambling crusade for at least 20 minutes. At least he is ambitious enough to run for President in a few years, with confidence even if has a 0 chance of winning. As much as Kanye gets on my nerves with the ramblings at the wrong time, if one took the time to digest a lot of things he says he makes a lot of sense. Sorry, I didn’t have time to digest what he was trying to relay, and by the time he received his Vanguard Award presented by Taylor Swift, I was already bored out of my mind.

Early parts of the show presented itself like I was watching an old version of The Real World. Nicki Minaj came out on stage with Taylor Swift to kick off the opening of the show, and that was the end of the Swift vs. Minaj feud. Then the shenanigans of Minaj has everyone talking when Minaj accepted her award that she won and took that opportunity to target Miley Cyrus verbally. Minaj called Cyrus a bitch and included the “what’s good”, line as a closing statement.

Cyrus came across as elegant and classy with her response, simply stating to Minaj that we all do interviews and that what is said is manipulative in the press. I do believe this was staged, and I can’t understand why Minaj would participate in this foolery. It appears Minaj supported the “angry Black woman” narrative, that many in the mainstream media loves to exploit.

How can Minaj happily play that role of the so-called “angry Black woman” in front of millions and thinks it’s okay. Minaj gives the impression as if she came out of her house into the street, vaseline on her face, with a head scarf on her head, razor blade in her mouth, attempting to shoot the fair one, with the only white girl on the block or something. I was cringing when I watch that and disappointed that Minaj didn’t know (or maybe she didn’t care), that she participated in a staged routine to make herself be portrayed this way. Then it gives the impression that the white woman doesn’t want to get involved. Cyrus gives a great response that demonstrate she has class and elegance (even though Miley exposed her breast on the show, like a good ole Miley antic we know).

When I woke up this morning, the mainstream media couldn’t wait to play that clip of the Miley and Minaj interaction. Then the newscasters gleefully say, Cyrus responded with class, even though they knew that whole entire routine was staged, but one has to know that some naïve viewers thought this entire interaction was real.

Minaj willfully or un-willfully partners with the system, by being a participate of destroying the Black woman’s positive imagery. Minaj and others who contribute to trying their best to destroy our imagery is part of the problem. It’s clear that Minaj has no conscious, otherwise she would’t be continuing to do so, no matter how destructive the results.

-Ms Scripter

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Where is the Outrage in the Police Killing of Tanesha Anderson?

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tanesha-andersonjpg-bbe380313139c379The family of 27-year-old Tanesha Anderson called 911 after, Anderson who is suffering from a schizophrenic disorder was experiencing an episode.  Here are the police and family version of the event:

Officers called to the home late on Nov. 12 had lengthy discussions with Anderson and her family, and all parties eventually agreed that Anderson should be driven to St. Vincent Charity Medical Center for a psychiatric evaluation.

“As the officers escorted Anderson to the police vehicle, she began actively resisting the officers,” police spokesman Sgt. Ali Pillow said in a press release.

 Officers placed Anderson in handcuffs and she began to kick at officers as they tried to get her in the back of their cruiser. That’s when Anderson inexplicably went limp, according to police.

The story conflicts with what Anderson’s family witnessed.

“They killed my sister,” her 40-year-old brother Joell Anderson said. “I watched it.”

 Anderson lost consciousness after an officer used a takedown move to bring her to the pavement and place her in handcuffs, her brother explained.

 She never moved again, he said. She was pronounced dead at Cleveland Clinic.

In case one forgets (or chooses to ignore), there have been numerous unarmed Black women killed by the police and the numbers have steadily increased. Here is a list of names, of those who didn’t get the same type of media or social network attention as their male counterparts:

Aiyana Jones was a seven-year-old girl from the east side of Detroit, Michigan who was shot and killed during a raid conducted by the Detroit Police Department’sSpecial Response Team on May 16, 2010.[3] Her death drew national media attention[4] and led U.S. Representative John Conyers to ask U.S. Attorney GeneralEric Holder for a federal investigation into the incident.[5]

Miriam Carey 34, a dental hygienist from Stamford, Connecticut, attempted to drive through a White House security checkpoint in her black Infiniti G37 coupe, struck a U.S. Secret Service officer, and was chased by the Secret Service to the United States Capitol where she was fatally shot by law enforcement officers. A young child, Carey’s daughter, was found unharmed in the car after it was ultimately stopped.

Tarika Wilson 26, Some facts are known. A SWAT team arrived at Ms. Wilson’s rented house in the Southside neighborhood early in the evening of Jan. 4 to arrest her companion, Anthony Terry, on suspicion of drug dealing, said Greg Garlock, Lima’s police chief. Officers bashed in the front door and entered with guns drawn, said neighbors who saw the raid.

Moments later, the police opened fire, killing Ms. Wilson, 26, and wounding her 14-month-old son, Sincere, Chief Garlock said. One officer involved in the raid, Sgt. Joseph Chavalia, a 31-year veteran, has been placed on paid administrative leave.

Shereese Francis  29, Lawyers for a mentally ill Queens woman are claiming she suffocated after four police officers were pressing on her back while trying to handcuff her so they could take her to the hospital two weeks ago.

On March 15, the family of Shereese Francis, 29 years old, called for an ambulance to come to their home at 132-33 154th Street in Jamaica, Queens, saying Ms. Francis, a schizophrenic, hadn’t taken her medicines since early November and was acting irrationally, said a law-enforcement official with knowledge of the incident.

Shantel Davis 23, took a bullet in the chest during a wild struggle with police after she tried to drive away from the smashup on Church Ave. and E. 38th St. in East Flatbush on Thursday, cops said.

No gun was found on Davis

Sharmel Edwards 49,  mother who worked with disabled children and had no major criminal history, was gunned down by five Las Vegas police officers Saturday morning after a man called police about 1:40 a.m. and said a female friend took his 2001 Cadillac without permission. The man also told police his .45-caliber handgun was in the center console.

Since the shooting, several witnesses have come forward to say that Edwards didn’t point a gun at officers.

One witness said Edwards had been cradling the weapon with two hands, another witness said she had her hands above her head, and a third witness told a television news station that she was holding a cellphone and not a gun.

Rekia Boyd 22, Boyd was an innocent bystander in Chicago’s Douglas Park around 1:00 a.m. on March 21, 2012 when Servin, responding to a disturbance call, arrived on the scene. The officer exchanged words with Antonio Cross, who was also in the park. After turning away, Servin, who was in his car, claims he saw Cross pull out a gun. It was actually his cell phone, but it was too late.

Servin fired five shots “blindly” over his shoulder, shooting Cross in his thumb and striking Boyd in the head. She died the next day at Mount Sinai Hospital.

There were no weapons recovered at the scene.

Tyisha Miller was an African American woman from RubidouxCalifornia. She was shot dead by police officers called by family members who could not wake her as she lay unconscious in a car. The incident sparked demonstrations and protests amid claims of police racism. The officers involved were fired from Riverside Police Department but did not face prosecution due to insufficient evidence.

Yvette Smith 47,  mother was shot to death in her home after opening her front door for police officers.  Officers made transparent attempts to justify the shooting by alleging that she threatened them with a gun, even though no evidence corroborates that story, and nobody can imagine the woman holding a gun to anyone.

In closing, Black women are not immune to the fierce brutality at the hands of the police. We need to make more noise; I will like to see more protesting (since that is what we are known to do) when sisters become victims of police brutality. I am getting frustrated by the biases and the lack of awareness for Black women that are killed at the hands of the police. I will make it my business to highlight the victims more, but let’s hope there will be no more victims no matter the gender. 

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-Ms Scripter

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The Misconception That Black Serial Killers Don’t Exist…

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Darren-Deon-VannThe recent news of accused murderer from Gary, Indiana Daren Deon Vann (43) is now labeled as a suspected serial killer. When Vann was revealed, the comments on social media appear to have people believe that Black serial killers are so rare or don’t exist at all. That is hardly the case, in fact; there are a lot of Black serial killers who share almost the same type of victims as Vann.

First, let’s see how Vann was caught to get the wheels in motion to call him a possible serial killer:

Vann, 43, ordered a prostitute through the backpage.com site serving Chicago and arranged a Friday meeting at a Motel 6 in Hammond with Afrikka Hardy, 19, the chief said.

The person who arranged the meeting, whom Doughty described only as “a facilitator,” later texted Hardy and received “suspicious texts” she believed were from Vann, the chief said.

She and another person went to the motel to check on Hardy, according to a probable cause affidavit. They found her body in a bathtub.

 Using a phone number provided by the facilitator, police electronically tracked Vann down, the chief said.

 A search warrant obtained for the vehicle police believe Vann drove to the motel as well as his home yielded a number of items that connect him to the scene, according to the affidavit. The search turned up clothing similar to the clothing worn by a man captured on surveillance video leaving the motel room, the same brand of condoms found inside the room and a cell phone that matched the description of Hardy’s.

 Vann was surprised he was discovered so quickly and admitted he messed up.

After being charged with Hardy’s murder, Vann who is also a convicted sex offender made comments that indicated that there were more victims. Vann led the police to a total of seven bodies and other comments he made to police may prove that his body count may be more, and that possibly expands over a 20-year period.

The stereotype that most serial killers are white men should be dispel. Not only is that misconception inaccurate, but it’s dangerous to one’s mindset. Serial killers can be white, Black, Latino, etc. and in some cases a woman like Aileen Wuornos, who was played by Charlize Theron in the motion picture entitled Monster – that won Theron an Oscar. There are a few Black serial killers that people have never heard of, or some people want to continue to believe that their existence is something that is a myth. Here are a few Black serial killers who have a lot in common with each other, the majority of their victims are Black:

Lonnie David Franklin Jr. now known as The Grim Sleeper murdered ten people. The nickname was awarded to Franklin after he goes on an hiatus from his murdering spree to resurface again. Franklin’s origin of his evilness was rooted in South Central Los Angelos. The victims were either a prostitute or just random women going to the store, and their bodies were left covered with a mattress, sometimes raped and were either shot or strangled. Only one male was one of Franklin’s victims during his murdering spree. Franklin was nabbed after the use of partial DNA to link the DNA at the murder scene to a partial match with Franklin’s son who happily implicated his father. Franklin’s reign of terror was from 1985-2010.

Travis Maury Davis: Is a serial killer based out of Ferguson, Missouri who had a total of 12-17 victims (all Black women).  Davis would pick up a prostitute, take them home, where he video tape the torture, and killing of the victims. Davis would mock the media by providing them a map where they can find the bodies (that would later be Davis’ downfall). The coward didn’t want to face the victim’s family or the music so he hung himself in prison, when he was finally arrested. Davis killing spree lasted from 2000-2002. Again, Davis was able to rack up that many victims because he targeted Black prostitutes that appear to be the MO of most Black serial killers.

Wayne Williams is a serial killer, who had the nation on edge (even my mother) – when someone was murdering Black boys. The media deemed the killing the “Atlanta Child Murders” Before Williams was caught the victims were a total of twenty eight killed in Atlanta from the summer of 1979-1981. Williams was caught after a stakeout of bridges where they believe the next victim will be dumped in a body of water under a bridge. The body that was dumped resurface later in the water and DNA samples from the carpet fibers in William’s home and his dog matched on the victims body. Williams was charged with two murders but never for the total of 28 murders during that span. The murders stop when Williams was apprehended, but many questions remain. A lot of people who analyze this case believes that Williams killed a few of the victims, but not all of them. The work of the Klan and other outside entities may have played a part in the tally of victims over the years. Either way, Williams was one of the first Black serial killers that I was made aware of at a young age, and wore a yellow ribbon to school in remembrance of the victims.

Let’s get back to the Vann case, in which the police were told to look into these murders and the police dragged their feet:

A string of unsolved strangling cases from the early 1990s to 2007 sit in the files at the Gary, Indiana police department. Four years ago, when confronted with details suggesting this might be the work of a serial killer, police declined to respond.

The Scripps study was part of a multi-year investigation into America’s growing backlog of unsolved homicides. According to the latest FBI estimates, there are more than 200,000 unsolved homicides committed since 1980. The rate at which police solve murder has generally been declining in recent years, despite improvements in forensic science such as DNA tracing.

The Scripps study in 2010 identified an alarming number of unsolved killings of women in 161 clusters nationwide involving 1,247 deaths of women of similar age who were killed by similar means.

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When victims are Black women and are sex workers, the police investigative tactics are not up to par. The main reason why these serial killers target most of the same types of victims is because they are prostitutes.  Serial killers target sex workers probably because they know some of these police officers tend to drag their feet with finding the killer(s). In a serial killers mind, a sex worker’s family wouldn’t take the time to look for them because most of the victims are runaways, drug addicts, and they believe they will be forgotten. As for the Atlanta child murders as long as the victims remain Black boys the sense of urgency didn’t seem to be there, and the tally of the victims exceeded. A perfect example of that is Jeffery Dahmer’s victims.

There are thousands upon thousands of missing Black women in the United States; that may never be located and could be victims of violence and other heinous acts. We have to demand that the police take cases of Black women missing seriously in America, like they do the white college kid who happens to go missing from her dormitory. Otherwise, guys like Vann, The Grim Sleeper and other serial killers will have this arrogance that killing a specific type of victim will go undetected for many years, or forever because the victims are Black. Hopefully I curbed the erroneous thought that Black serial killers don’t exist because as one can see they are one of the biggest players in the evil acts that plague this country.

-Ms Scripter

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Black Men in the Entertainment Industry who have dissed Black Women that Black Women Still Support!

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“When someone shows you who they are, believe them”
Maya Angelou

I am about to get real and raw. WAKE UP SIS!! These people hate you. They hate the very essence of you. They hate you, their sisters, their mothers, and their mother’s mother. Heck they hate the skin they live in and they are telling you.

Kevin Hart
#handsdown Light-skinned women usually have better credit than a dark-skinned woman…Broke as dark hoes…Lol

Dark skinned women take a punch @ da face better than light-skinned women…u soft as yellow b–ches…lol

Lil Wayne
Beautiful black woman, I bet that b*tch look better red.” “…my daughter is the first and last dark skin child I’m having. The rest of my baby moms [are] light skinned chicks. I even got an Asian baby moms to make sure I have a daughter with good hair. Too bad we had a son.

Young Berg
I’m kinda racist…I don’t like dark butts…You know how some women prefer light skin men or dark skin men.It’s rare that I do dark butts – that’s what I call dark skinned women…I [don’t date women] darker than me.

I love the pool test. If you can jump in the pool exactly like you are and you don’t come out looking better than you looked before going in the pool – then that’s not a good look. Any woman that uses brown gel to set down her baby hair is not poppin.

Pilow the Don
…black women need to get their shit together, period, point black. And if you’re in denial of that, you are part of the problem.

Kanye West
Rolling with some light-skin chicks and some Kelly Rowlands.

If it wasn’t for race mixing there’d be no video girls. Me and most of our friends like mutts a lot. Yeah, in the hood they call ‘em mutts

Neyo
All the prettiest kids are light skinned anyway.

Tyrese (on not having Black women in his video)
I welcomed all women and went with the best…. I don’t do favors.

Brian White
You can’t call it a stereotype if it’s the majority. The most prevalent image in “urban society” right now is women like Nene [Leaks]. If there’s a fight that breaks out on “Love & Hip Hop” those people are one every blog, the cover of every magazine the next week. It’s not Taraji or Gabrielle, it’s whoever just got into a fist fight. Tyler’s not stereotyping, he’s holding up a mirror and people are mad at him because people don’t want to look at that image in that way.[sic]” read more of the madness here

WAKE UP!!

YES WAKE UP!!

These people hate you but they will gladly take your money. Heck some of them even said so.  A chicken wouldn’t support KFC so why in the world would you support a man that hates you. I don’t get it. Is it Stockholm or battered woman’s syndrome. Someone and I mean somebody explain this madness to me. How many times do these Black Women abusers/haters have to trash you before you get it? They aren’t coming home, they are not changing, and no they don’t love you. Love is not pain. Love is kind. Love is sweet and gentle.  Sister you are being verbally abused and assaulted and the thing is that you know it. You have become complicit in your own abuse. And guess what? The world sees it and shakes their collective heads because you continue to line your abusers pockets.

I implore you. No I beg you to walk away. Turn off the television. Don’t buy that CD. Go to another movie. Build your wealth, health, and self esteem. Heck even pray on it if works for you. Just let these people know you will not stand for it. I don’t care if they apologized. HELLO it’s complete and utter bullocks! They apologized because YOU line their pockets! Think of it like this. If a random white actor or singer said the same thing about Black women wouldn’t you be signing petitions and marching to get his ass fired. So why are these racist Black men any different?
I will close with more infinite wisdom from that great thespian Slim Thug.

Slim Thug
It’s hard to trust a Black woman sometimes because a lot of Black women’s mind frame is that the man gotta do everything for her – he gotta pay for this, he gotta pay for that, and if it ain’t about money then a lot of them ain’t fucking with him. If that’s what you’re here for then I don’t want to be with you,” said Slim.

Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.

I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, ‘Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.’

My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the s**t that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too. She graduated from Columbia [University] and I like that about her so it’s cool. I’ve dated girls that will buy a $3,000 bag and don’t know how to pay it off on their credit cards. They walk around in these Louis Vuittons and red bottoms but they’re riding around in raggedy cars, so it’s just getting your priorities right.

White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m fucking with you, you gotta buy me this and that. Black men are the ones that motherfuckers need [but] I think a lot of them need to step it up too. A Black man who gets a little bread will go make it rain in the club and be broke the next day or instead of im going to invest in a business he gonna go buy new jewelry or a new car and still live in the hood. Black peoples’ mentality is real fucked up in general [and] it’s affecting everything.

“Black women need to be more genuine and be more 50/50 [but] It should be a fair exchange in a relationship period or eventually somebody is gonna feel like they’re getting fucked over whether it’s the woman or the man. I think that will help Black relationships out a lot.

-Bougie Black Girl

 

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Tami Roman of “Basketball Wives” – The Epitome of a Hood Rat

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I do not routinely watch Basketball Wives on VH1, because I do not care to watch Black women represent themselves in such a negative light. Unfortunately, I caught a glimpse of the show while channel surfing and was appalled at how Tami Roman behaved on national television. Tami taking Kesha Nichols bag and cell phone hoping to entice her into a fight and just bulling her relentlessly was flat out disturbing.

The pressure has been building ever since, where many people have been particularly critical of the shows direction and Tami’s rude and disturbing behavior.  Tami took the opportunity to apologize recently via Twitter, after the show aired:

“I don’t apologize for it to be accepted – that is ultimately the other person’s right to accept or deny it. My only responsibility is to acknowledge a mistake was made and own up to it. I apologize to my family, my REAL friends, my business colleagues, and my Project Girl ladies 4my recent behavior on BBW. I am NOT a bully as depicted on the show, but I did make poor decisions in handling my differences with my cast mate. I sincerely apologize to all of us, as well as to my cast-mate who was on the receiving end of my wrath.”

I always say, bullies eventually meet their match, fortunately for Tami she has not challenged the wrong person and paid the consequences for her actions. I am not advocating violence, but sometimes when one feels so superior over others, by picking on weaker opponents, getting your “wig snapped back”, may remedy all that courage. Tami is nothing more than a hood rat on this show, who still thinks she is in her MTV Real World days. She is 41 years old and to demonstrate that behavior of a teenager is not only embarrassing to her and her family, but to Black women as a whole. People will look at her and think we all behave this way and with the high Nielsen ratings this show has generated – will be difficult for many to dismiss that image from their collective heads. I have a feeling Tami will never change, can you imagine her at the age of 60? I can see her wanting to “shoot the fair one” over a Bingo game. Hopefully this will be the last we see of Tami on reality television, since she is hinting she will be leaving the show. Just like a drug lord who is arrested and locked away for good – there is always someone ready to take their place and someone is ready to take Tami’s place.

Shaunie O’Neal who is behind this project just recently stated that the violence will be toned down next season. Shaunie either is succumbing to the negative press, sponsors jumping ship, or she feels she made enough money off of these women and will slow down the rhetoric. Shaunie is nothing more than a pimp and these women on her show are her hoes. A lot of people have speculated that Basketball Wives is in fact scripted, which makes the concept to this show even worse – and gives the impression that many of these women are selling their precious souls all for the love of money.

I can’t enjoy a show that supports hood rat tendencies, rewards folks who are not even wives a spotlight on television. I miss the days where shows like The Jeffersons, The Cosby Show, and A Different World, etc touched on an array of issues and brought positivity to Black households all across the country. Now there are shows that cast so much negativity on Blacks that it is beyond disturbing. The only people that are getting enjoyment out of watching us make a fool of ourselves are the suits who run the networks, who lined their pockets with wealth based on our yearning to see ignorance on the screen. Basketball Wives will not be the first or the last reality show on television that will make us all look like idiots. The sad part is many of you support the degradation of your own race as a form of entertainment and see the fights as if it is a sport by watching it.  Give me a show any day of the week that showcases Black women like the Queens they should be made out to be – instead of some classless women that got famous over allowing a sports figure to impregnate them. There are tons of wonderful Black Queens that deserves the spotlight on television, but unfortunately many of us are so brain wash that we wouldn’t tune in to positivity – but rather embrace the negativity trend, better known as reality television.

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You’re not fat! Your just in the wrong hood!

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You’re not fat, you’re just in the wrong hood!

A Black Man’s perspective on beauty and Black Women.

An essay by Nate Daley

 OK Enough talking about religion! I saw a front page article in the Washington Post showing that in a recent survey, black women have a higher sense of self esteem than white women despite the fact that by and large they are 20 lbs heavier on average. This is not news to anyone here but the reason that they were giving as to why was laughable at best and insulting at worst. One of the reasons the article gives is that black women don’t buy into the media’s depiction of beauty, namely a thin white woman.  The article goes on to say that black women view health and beauty in less synonymous ways as opposed to their white counterparts. At best these are shallow and don’t go to the root cause of the reason.

I grew up in The Bronx New York City. I am proud of it. I love where I’m from and what it made me. As a black man, there are things that I find attractive about women that just kind of came along with being from that part of town or so I thought. I was attracted to who I was attracted to because of how she looked to me, but at the end of the day, there were some girls who more guys found attractive than others. This is the norm in all neighborhoods. There is always the girl who all the guys want to be with. The block beauty. But it took me going to college to notice that what that girl looks like in black neighborhoods is different than what that girl looks like in white neighborhoods. For some reason, white men like thin women. Not all but most. As I am not a white man I cannot say why and will not make a fool of myself trying to give theories. But as a black man I like my women on the “thick” “healthy” side and I am not alone. Where I grew up thin women were the ones who were hard-pressed for a date. I have tons of thin black female friends over the years that ate 5 meals a day to “get a booty”.  They didn’t have low self esteem either, they just realized the truth. The truth is that where we live most thin women are thin for certain reasons, and not good ones. Crack cocaine is widely prevalent in the inner city and people who use them forgo many things to get it like food. Many of these people male or female become abnormally thin and it is a tell tale sign of their addiction. This is where the phrase “crackhead thin” comes from. The other reason is HIV AIDS which basically makes the body wither away to nothing.  Thin women in my neighborhood are not downcast for being thin. But considering the thought behind who people compare them to, it will make them want to at last always be eating around people

The other part of this is that white men up until very recently in our history controlled the media. And with this control his version of what was beautiful was what was being put out in the public sphere. It is not until recently that the mainstream is realizing that it didn’t have the hold on African American females as it did White females. This is because when a curvy white girl looks at the TV she sees people who look like her and live in a place similar to where she is and then sees guys looking at certain types of girls. Then she walk outside and sees guys in her neighborhood go after the girls who looks closest to the girl she just saw on TV. Since she doesn’t  look like that girl, she feels ugly. Until recently black women were an oddity in mainstream media and never really looked upon as more than a maid extra or an “exotic” touch to a show. So a curvy black girl would look at the TV and rarely EVER see women that look like her. But she walks outside she is constantly being talked to. The black women that do wind up in the media are not always as thin as the white women next to them and so there wasn’t any reason to feel any way about their body.

As black culture has become more mainstream, more black men are entering into controlling positions in media and bringing with them their perspectives of beauty. This is the paradigm shift. This now brings with it the further positive reinforcement for curvy black girls. Because now they do see black men on TV in places that look similar to where she lives. But the girls that all the guys want on that show look much closer to her in build. The girl on the show may even be heavier. Either way, they are much closer to the body type of the black girl watching than the white girl watching a similar show with a white cast.  That same curvy girl walks outside only to have that concept reinforced by the men in her neighborhood who are talking to her. Even if it gets to an annoying point, she feels desired all the time. If at every turn one group of girls is being worshipped for something that another group of girls is being virtually criminalized for, things start to happen. One is eating disorders such as anorexia, which is so prevalent in white girls but almost nonexistent in black girls. Another is the reason I named this essay what I did. Many curvy white women date black men. Especially if they can’t get down to a low weight because their frame will not allow it.  They may be attracted to men of all colors but like men you pick from what is being presented to you. A man only goes after what he sees as I said in an earlier essay. Women conversely choose based on what is being presented to her. If no white men present themselves, the girl takes the guy she finds most attractive from the men who do.

This brings me to the underlying cause of my agitation with this article. The real reason they don’t want to talk about the truth. The truth is Black Women of all shapes and sizes are flat out LOVED by black men. But bigger, to a degree, is better, and if they have size with a figure, then she is PERFECT. Black women, especially since black people have grown into a more prominent role in American culture, are now seeing images of black women with curves being told they are beautiful and sexy by black men. That is why black women feel better about themselves than white women. Perfection in their world is almost a birthright. But to admit this is to admit a truth that white America will die or riot in the streets before they accept. White men don’t view white women as positively as black men view black women or women in general for that matter. This flies in the face of the hyper sexualized, misogynistic black male which is all too propped up by the mainstream. But even those guys are not telling girls to starve themselves virtually to death before they give them a second look. The truth is not so much that black women are strong in the face of a mainstream only now beginning to call them beautiful on a regular basis. The truth is black men have been telling them this all along. I’m just glad they listened.

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Weekly Recap In Rants: Part I – Too $hort/XXL Mag Advocates Sexually Assaulting Young Women, Honduras Prison Fire, & Gary Carter Death

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I’ve decided to address this version of the weekly recap in rants in two parts. It has been a very busy week as far as the news has been concerned so this can not be summed up into one post. Look out for Part II this weekend.

Too Short & XXL Magazine Advocates Sexually Assaulting Young Women

Oakland’s very own hip hop legend Too $hort, who has had his share of utilizing the word bitch to describe a female in his rap songs took it up an enormous notch, this week. Too $hort waged war against young women, by insinuating to young men – to sexually assault them. It is incomprehensible and flat out irresponsible by XXL Magazine to join in on the assault, by publishing that trash on their website. If one is not aware, this dynamic duo of idiots teamed up – and decided to give some mentoring advice to middle school boys pertaining to young women. Too $hort, stated in a video that young men should “turn girls out” and “take it to the hole”. Oh and he took it a step further, here is an excerpt:

“When you get to late middle school, early high school and you start feeling a certain way about the girls. I’m gonna tell you a couple tricks,” Too Short says in the video. “A lot of the boys are going to be running around trying to get kisses from the girls. We’re going way past that. I’m taking you to the hole. You push her up against the wall,” he continued. “You take your finger and put a little spit on it and you stick your finger in her underwear and you rub it on there and watch what happens.”

This is from the same buffoon, who was arrested for fighting after he tried to take underage girls back stage at one of his concerts. In theory, it is not surprising that he is advocating the sexual exploitation and assault of young women. Not only is he an idiot, but so is XXL Magazine for consigning to the idiocy. Well, the heat was on after that video was posted and subsequently removed. A large outcry from the community, sent panic attacks throughout the head quarters at XXL and toward Too Short. A petition was drawn up (which I signed) and Too $hort later apologize, but the damage has already been done. XXL Magazine Editor Vanessa Satten, who threw her entire team under the bus release the following statement:

“There has been some recent controversy surrounding a video interview with Too $hort that posted on XXLMag.com last week,” she said in a statement posted on the magazine’s website.

“Many readers found the tone and content of the interview to be offensive and were angered that it was allowed to post on the website,” Satten said. “I agree with their perspective. I do not see all content before it goes live. When I saw this video, I was truly offended and thought it crossed the line. I had it taken down immediately. I am disappointed that an employee decided to post it and I am putting internal procedures in place to make sure content like this does not go on the site. The video goes against my value system and represents poor judgment on behalf of the individual who posted it.”

The last time I checked an editor is suppose to oversee content before it is published, that is her job! Of course, she weasel her way out of it and now her team is taking the L. At least you know what type of person Satten is, and the word leader does not come into mind. You will never catch me buying  XXL magazine or reading the site; the editor should be fired. The media has a lot of power and influence, and we as consumers demanded better – and it paid of.

Shout out to Too $tupid I mean Too $hort for cementing his legacy as an advocate for rape and continuing his tradition of disrespecting young black women. I wonder if he has any young children…wait I do not want to know. The thought of this man being a father sends chills down my spine.

Honduras Prison Fire

355 people died in one of the most horrific prison fires in recent memory in Honduras. An inmate started a fire via a mattress and it ignited throughout the prison, burning alive the inmates who remained trap in their cells. No matter what these inmates have done to find themselves in prison, no one should die in such a heinous fashion. It also raises concerns of overcrowding, inadequate safety and emergency plans that were not in place – and the brutality of the prison system in that country. This was a message that inmates should be treated humanely – and maybe this tragedy will set the wheels in motion for changing the prison system in that country, before it happens again.

Gary Carter”s Passing

I was  in 6th grade when I witnessed the 1986 Mets team winning the World Series. I remember all the guys from that squad from Gooden, Strawberry, Backman, Wilson, Hernandez, Darling, etc. and of course “The Kid” Gary Carter. The Hall of Fame catcher with the beautiful curly hair, who always brought energy, toughness, and appeared to have fun out there.

Gary Carter died yesterday after his long fought battle with brain cancer at the age of 57. Thanks for the memories and for helping me see my first ever championship appointed to a New York sports team. Rest in peace.

Stay tuned for Part II recap in rants where we will touch on the following topics: Rihanna and Chris Brown’s relationship, Whitney Houston’s funeral, Jermey Lin and racism, etc.

 

-Ms Scripter

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The Urban Legend Known as the Committed Black Man.

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The black man has many issues facing him. That is a given, every man regardless of ethnicity does on some level. The unique issue I would like to speak about is the portrayal of black men in media by black women. I speak on these issues as not only a happily (no matter what she tells you) committed husband and father, but also as the child of a single mother. I want to speak out on this issue because, contrary to the overwhelming majority of black women with a camera in front of their face, I exist. As the son of a single mother I understand the plight of the black woman in a very intimate way; I was raised in it. I formed my views of the world around me directly and indirectly because of it. I watched my mother toil by herself to raise me and still provide a meaningful life for herself. I am grateful for everything she did to provide for me and shield me from the absence of my father. I vowed at a very early age to never, under any circumstances, leave any woman in a similar place.

As I got older and started to date, I came to realize the bars of expectations for me were low. I thought little of it at first due to the obvious examples of men around me who lowered the bar; but then I realized a few things. There was little credit given to men who try to raise the bar. Chris Rock once joked that there are no songs written about daddies unless you count” Papa was a Rolling Stone”. As a musician I often joke that a committed loving black man is like a bass player in a band. Nobody has anything to say to or about him unless he makes a mistake or stops playing. It started to become a point of debate among my friends when the movie “Waiting to Exhale” was released. To the shock of everyone who knew my parental situation, I thought it was male bashing. The reason being is that this was the most important realization for a horny teenager, but a startling truth about our situation as a people; those women chose those men. Moreover, they turned down some good men that would have treated them right to be with that man in many instances. As I wrote in another essay, men are lifelong solicitors. We are selling ourselves to women. The way most men learn how to sell is to mimic the last successful sale they observed. How exactly do black women expect a black man to be respectful and loving to black women when the guy who isn’t these things, is the one who gets the girl in the end? If my mother did one thing right, and she did many, it was to be extremely particular about the men she brought around me growing up. I’m sure this limited her dating options more than a single woman with a child already did. She told me when I had children that if she was going to have that kind of man in her life she might as well have stayed with my father. If only more women had the true strength to take on that philosophy.

I also wonder what if a movie was made of the plight of the black male in the world of the opposite sex. Here are a few examples: One guy was a single father whose girl was in jail, another a recent divorcee paying child support for years for a child he finds out later isn’t his. Another guy who is hopelessly in love with a stripper who uses him for his money, and falls for a drug dealer who later mugs him to stay away from her. To top it off, a guy whose wife gets turned out by a lesbian co-worker. What would the reviews be by women? Would they simply say that they are not any of the women portrayed and go along with life? Or would they be outraged and demand an apology from those responsible for making the film? These stories I iterated to aren’t as rare as one might think. They just don’t have movies made about them every couple years that receives national promotion from Oprah.

I am thirty years old now. I have been married for close to eight years and have two children. For all sakes and purposes, I am not the man referred to in any Tyler Perry movie or Terry McMillan book. However, I’m still highly offended when I see the new movie or book about the trauma inflicted by the black man to the black woman. My wife asserts correctly that these stories like them or not, are true and if I don’t feel like I am part of that group of black men, then taking offense is pointless. I don’t feel like I fit that profile, that is not where my offense lies. My offense lies in the fact that there are very few moments privately and publicly, that a committed, loving, black male is celebrated. This is coupled with the fact that there are African American female singers, writers, actresses, and media figures who have made there careers on “brotha bashing”. (If you want to know who, ask a brotha.) I named this essay the urban legend of a committed black man because if you listen to most black women, men like me don’t exist. We are invisible and mute. White media has made us into enough of a joke and a threat. Hearing it on both sides has to be doing more harm than good. There are enough loving black husbands and fathers not named Barack Obama to make a movie that doesn’t portray black men as pimps, drug dealer/users, two timing backstabbers, or closet homosexuals. I’m sure it can be done. For the sake of my four year old son, I hope so.

By Nathaniel Daley aka Daley Bread

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