OPINION- Time and time again, we read or hear countless stories of bullying that is taking place in schools and the cyber world and the end results are that the person who is being bullied commits an act of suicide or turns around and kills their bully.
I can’t stand a bully, and we need to acknowledge one of the reasons why so many kids in school are participating in the act. More than likely the bully is being bullied or abused by someone at home so they will like to past that aggressive behavior down to an easy target. Another reason is the bully will like to make a name for themselves by being the leader of aggression, so they don’t turn around and become bullied themselves. Then of course, I call them the side-line bullies. The side-line bullies participate in the act of bullying alongside the main bully. Deep down inside the side-line bully does not want to participate, but want to appear “cool” that they just threw the target into their locker and closed the door, or came up with various snaps on social media that embarrasses the target.
The most recent story of 14-year old Lamar Hawkins, who recently took his life at the middle school he attended due to bullying. Hawkins shot himself in the school bathroom. Hawkins was a small kid, and that is one of the reasons why the cowards felt he was an easy target to torment him until he put an end to it, by ending his life.
“I believe he took his life at school to send a message to these bullies,” Hawkin’s mother said. “They won because he took his life as a result.”
I’m relatively old school and my way of thinking is that I have no problem in seeing someone bully the bully. In other words, if my relative is being bullied. I see no reason why that person’s family does not go up to the school and approach the bully or bullies. Letting the bully know that if it continues that 3pm is the time you will begin to fear, since school administrators act like the subject is hot potatoes, and can’t seem to remedy the issue. Since the bullies parents appear to have instilled zero values in their child’s upbringing, family members of the one that is being bullied should take the matters into their own hands. Many of you will not agree with me, which is fine, but I be damn if someone is going to bully the little one’s in my family to a point where they end their own life – that’s not going to go down like that on my watch.
School administrators are clueless. The administrators take statements from the victim or the victims families once they complain. They sometimes meet with the bullies and tell them to stop bullying this person, but nothing else happens, thereafter. I believe once a complaint is rendered and the results are founded, that individual(s) need to be expel since they seem to have zero self-control, so school administrators need to teach them self-control. I don’t want my kids going to school and worrying about a loser bully and lose focus on their education and resort to ending their life. Either the school administrators change their way of thinking when it comes to addressing bullies, or they get sued – bottom line!
Hypothetically speaking if the person that is being bullied resorts to killing their bully and shooting up the school, then these same administrators will try to find out what went wrong. Let’s try to end the problem early because quite frankly no one has time to waste on worrying about bullies when one is trying to pass Biology. The focus of the child that goes to school should be on education and the distractions like a coward bully should never be in place to replaced that child’s focus.
How about the parents of the bullies held their child accountable and raised them to not be bullies. This isn’t hard folks, if I find out any of the children in my family is participating in bullying I will ensure that the act is ceased immediately. Educate one’s children on the act and let them know it is not tolerated in the schools or the cyber world, or anywhere. As a parent one needs to drop by, go up to the school and randomly check up on their child. Trust me, word will get out faster than anything if the bully happens to be one’s child; secrets aren’t exactly kept quite in school. Someone is going to blow the lid off the trash can and tell a parent that their child is either being bullied or are the bullies.
If one can’t make time to go up to the school, keep an eye out when it comes to a child’s behavior who may be subjected to bullying. Here is a sample on what to look for by stopbully.org:
Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are:
- Unexplainable injuries
- Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
- Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
- Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch.
- Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
- Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
- Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
- Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem
- Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide
Where is the legislation from one’s lazy congress to come up with something more comprehensive to address bullying? Remember, this is the new millennium and when I was growing up we had bullies, but we never had social media to add fuel to the fire and that is the added recipe that sparks the tragic deadly end results. School administrators need to be held accountable, just as much as the parents of the bullies. With laws in place, maybe the sinister act of bullying will be downgraded dramatically. Let’s be honest, bullying will never cease entirely, just like the act of terrorism. Containing it is the most important step in stopping this act of aggression.
Ending bullying starts at home whether we lobby for new laws, hold school administrators accountable, handling the bullies ourselves or raising one’s child not to be bullies. Otherwise stories like Hawkins will be a daily occurrence and the subject of bullying will be highlighted briefly, but then the normalcy of the act will continue to dominate in school and in the cyber world. We can’t allow that, not even for a second otherwise another life or lives will end tragically.
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